I was having a conversation with one of my really great friends’ Melissa and something dawned on me about life. When we are dealing with tough times, bad moments, we’re unhappy and unfulfilled, why do we only change certain components of our lives but not everything?
Life is energy transfer, that’s the name of the game. When we no longer care about our job, we work on finding a new one. We’re unhappy with where we live, we find somewhere new to live. We’re not happy with our health, we change our diet and exercise more. But you know what’s ironic? We don’t remove people from our lives enough. This is the question that we don’t ask ourselves and it’s time to talk about it extensively.
You know that saying, “most people come into your life for a purpose and a reason, sometimes for a life, sometimes for a season.” Whether you want to accept it or not, 80% of the people who come into your life are only seasonal, they’re not here for the long haul.
Through self-reflection and learning about myself and life, I would say that 80% of people don’t stick around in your life. This includes family members, friends, acquaintances, coworkers, people you date or end up in a relationship with, the list goes on.
I’m lucky in a sense because four childhood friends are still in my life. One I’ve known since I was 8 years old, the other three since I was 12 years old. Some of us get lucky in that regards, a lot of us don’t and it’s all life experiences and how your life goes.
The point I’m making is, we don’t purge the people who are not beneficial to our lives. People who are around for the wrong reasons, don’t have the right intentions, just want to drain your energy, bring negativity, and make you feel less of yourself.
Or it can be people who don’t respect you, your boundaries, the direction you’re going in life, your perspectives and views on the world, those are the people you don’t need to keep around. And as you get older, you should be getting wiser and learning that you need to let people go from your life.
It can be hard at times, it can be someone you love dearly or someone you care about. Or it can just be someone you had high praise and value for and you learned their true colors and who they really are. As it’s always been said, use your discretion, use your discernment.
The question becomes, how many people in your life are really of value to you. People who want to see you do well, excel, value and respect you, will hold you accountable when need be, and wants to see you elevate and grow. Have you thought about it? Not many I’m guessing, right? That’s what I thought.
It’s time to ask yourself the questions you don’t ask, why do you keep people around that don’t benefit you? It’s time to start purging your contacts in your phone, your social media pages and anything else that holds people’s names in it.
You’ll thank me later. That’s my blog for today, thanks for reading as always, be good and go accomplish your goals!
Jamell Crouthers
Aquarianmind
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